Grandfather passed on the hint to David at age 6, clueless of what it meant. David confirmed the meaning at Grandfather’s deathbed, but held unto the secret until 2017. The Patriarch has failed the world-reality.
The return of balanced, Matrilineal honor and feminine energy, is here. Father John spoke of such love and respect for his mother Alexandria. These stories intrigued David the most, since age 6. The undying admiration. The stories of mutual patience and absolutely respect. She died in 1965, but her message made it to David.
Nope, we are not the Hispanic name Grandfather took informally, to honor those who took him in around age 4, when is OWN mother Lydia abandoned him … just him, because she had “assimilated into the American Good Life” and expected to continue selfishly down that tract (to her own demise). So, as much as Grandfather Blas loved, honored and respected those who cared for him, the ‘blood name’ died there and the care-takers’ name is not our own Storyline. Why did Lydia leave suddenly? Because GG Father Louis left 1st! Another act of selfish abandon. So, his Italian name and indecent descent from Genova Italy, also DIES with him. The Patriarchy, with the exception of David’s amazing Grandfather Blas, had its time and chance. It must be let go.
Grandmother’s message (see here for how it was transmitted) was ALL David needed to hear, to affirm what he suspected and searched for his entire life. The Iroquoian word nvWatoHiyadv means “Harmony” in English. David reinstated the name, as one final bridging cipher, to “remain in the system” that continues to Think it can conform and assimilate him and The Ancestral Knowing.
The Settling, Occupying, Colonizing “authority” FAILED miserably! And yet, David still appeases and overly adapts to his inertia and love for those around him. Instead of sharing THE truth behind the name change, he offered a lie. He took an English version of his real name, to appease the English culture that assimilates him to this day. “Harmony is of Irish descent and part of my mother’s father’s bloodline.” Why did he utter the lie? Knowing the true story of Scot-Irish domination over Appalachia, hardly anything to ‘be proud of’ from uttering that gross lie. Deep down, David is still carrying multi-generational trauma. He still feels judged, although less and less ashamed of his true lineage, the more he dispels HisTorical myths and redirects the proper painful-reflection back upon his Peoples’ persecutors. He proceeds with caution, because what is needed is a Conciliation and go-forward approach to “living well together”. There can be no Reconciliation for Genocide. Watch what happens next. ; D
But wait a minute! Why not take the name from your dear Mother Linda’s side?! More of the same heart-breaking displays of selfishness and disrespect, though much worse? Hard to know the truth. Grandma is likely to blame for all of the abandonment.
Grandpa Ross abandon Linda’s mother Dorene when she was 22 and responsible for SIX kids (5 half or possibly unrelated, likely not Ross’ kids). He quickly remarried and lived a life free of kid-oriented responsibility. They both died a few years later in a Train crash. Gets worse though. Dorene cracked under the pressure and abandon all 6 kids for a few years. David’s mom Linda was the oldest, and was the Glue that held 5 of them together. One sister was sent to a loving family in a different state. She never returned to Dorene, mentally nor physically. When Dorene returned a few years later, she committed abuse too gross to convey publicly. Linda would finally be told by Dorene upon her return to “the family”, that she was NOT Linda’s biological mother. Wow! She began to convey the origin of Linda’s mother (native girl from Grand Traverse county, who died giving birth [supposedly] to Linda). Linda would pass along this info to David on his birthday a few years later.
This domination of Indigenous women on BOTH sides of his ancestral lineage, was the basis of much anxiety and pain for David’s dear mother. David never forgot the HisStory, despite never being “told directly” about it. How’d he do that? ; ) Those who knew 1,000s of years of Natural living (don’t call us primitive or Natives) resided with and through Indigenous Women, on all sides of his ancestral history. This is THE Matriarch. Balanced feminine and masculine energy. This is the legend that will live forward through David’s integrating Emotion and Action. The world will Feel the difference. Only time escaping tHis-lifetime, will reveal his impact.